Midlife Chrysalis

On my 40th birthday, I had a bonafide breakdown. Complete with a fight with my father, who called me the day before to wish me a “Happy Birthday”. When I corrected him that it was the next day, he insisted that my birthday was that day (January 4th)  not January 5th.  He went as far as hanging up on me to race to his safe deposit box, retrieve my birth certificate, and then called me back to inform me that yes my birthday is indeed January FIFTH. 

No, he doesn’t have dementia. 

It was enough to set me into a anxious tailspin that became a massive house cleaning and purging of STUFF. I threw out so much stuff that day, including , randomly, all my silverware.

A decade later, I never really thought I’d get to 50. Which I did on January 5th 2021. (January 5th, Dad.)

My 40s were much better than my 30s and leaps and bounds better than my 20s (which were actually pretty bad in retrospect). I’m pretty optimistic about my 5th decade. Surprisingly so.

I’ve been lucky enough to lead a pretty free life. Lucky enough to have good friends and a good relationship that continues to grow. Lucky to have learned to focus on what I have, rather than what I don’t. 

Happiness doesn’t come naturally to me, but for the past 10 years I’ve been “fakin’ it”  and I feel like I’m actually starting to be “makin’ it”. 

So I’ve been wondering what sort of crisis I should have to mark these midlife milestones.

And since I’m not in crisis I’m coming up blank. 

Yes, I think I’ve finally gone from faking it to making it. 

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Love, 
Kate

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