The visible woman

As I stride through my 5th decade, male attention is most definitely on the decline. Maybe it’s vain to care. Still. Seems like yesterday that I didn’t have to try so hard to get help in a store. 

I feel myself experiencing what THEY (media, magazines, TV, movies) warn you about: becoming invisible as you get older. Not that I’ve based my worth on my attractiveness, but when you're young it’s nearly impossible to escape messages that beauty is everything. Beauty will open doors, land you a partner, give you the emotional/physical/financial security you need. If you’re pretty ENOUGH all these things will come to you easily. 

And like most young women, I was focused on my appearance. I was obsessed. I dieted. I developed a “style” that I felt maximized my good points and hid my “flaws”. I refused to leave the house without my eyebrows and lipstick. 

I focused on the outside-what was visible-and I ignored or denied the invisible parts of me: my needs, my wants, my desires, and by my late 30s I realized that I didn’t even know what those things WERE !

So now at 51, post a recent, unexpected radical hysterectomy, clearly and absolutely past my prime. Fading. Faded. “Invisible” to onlookers, I’m finally focusing on those things.

What do I need ?

What do I want ? 

What makes me happy ?

What can I say no to ? 

What do I want to say YES to ? 

I’m becoming visible to the only person who’s opinion really matters.

Myself. 

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Love, 
Kate

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